Sometimes I get into this weird place where I think about relationships and all that they are made of. Lots of us are married and lots of people have even been married for the exact same amount of time that I have, and yet we all have a completely different story. The way we met, how long it took us to fall in love, everything we think about when we tear up and wonder how we ever managed to get so lucky or what we could possibly have done to deserve so much wonderful.
And then I of course think about my own story. Our story.
Meeting Ryan and falling hopelessly into his gorgeous green & gold eyes on the first day of Algebra II; almost buying his TV and then falling in love instead; opening my door at 8pm to a bacon, eggs and Dumb & Dumber-wielding Ryan; talking about God and life and feelings until my alarm went off telling me I needed to get up and get ready for work; climbing a mountain together; exchanging rings and promising to love each other forever…
And then the little things, the seemingly insignificant things that have made our marriage just that much more ours. Pizza for our Thanksgiving dinner, Scrabble until midnight, screaming an Iron Maiden song as we make our way to Yellowstone, picking up every American flag hat we find and shaking our heads in frustration because we still have yet to find one that was actually made in America.
I think it’s pretty wonderful to think that you might have a little story similar to one of ours, or maybe not at all, but that your marriage (or future marriage) is made up of all these little stories of your own and they make your marriage what it is. And you and your spouse are the only two people, the only two people, who will ever really know this marriage. Your families and friends may see pieces of it when you’re all together, but only the two of you will know what it’s like to fall asleep holding each other’s hands and wake up with numb fingers, will know what nightmares jolt you awake in the middle of the night or what you giggle about during breakfast.
I can’t imagine sharing any bit of this life with any other man. This is everything I could ever want, today and forever.