We
noticed very early on in our marriage that TV and the Internet were not good
for us. We were newlyweds, which used to mean that you were spending all of
your time holding hands and starry-eyed, but instead we were staring at screens
and saying in a zombie-like trance, “Let’s do something together in… 20
minutes?” every 20 minutes.
We got
rid of TV and Internet—mostly because we are cheap—and it revolutionized our
marriage, y’all.
My
older readers might be rolling their eyes but those of you who are my age and
younger, seriously, take heed. Our parents and grandparents had completely
different marriages than we do today.
You
know what happens when you can’t turn away and scroll mindlessly through
Pinterest or when your husband can’t turn up the sound of a basketball game?
You finish the argument, you make up, and then you hang out with each other.
You talk. You memorize the pattern in the gold in the green of his eyes, and
then recognize that same gold pattern in your son’s bright blue eyes, because
you are always looking at faces and never looking at screens.
You have fewer headaches.
You read more books.
Your house is cleaner (unless you have kids. Then it’s messier, but in a good way).
You read more books.
Your house is cleaner (unless you have kids. Then it’s messier, but in a good way).
I am
often met with blank stares or rude comments when I explain that I don’t have
Internet at my house. When I call the bank or library I am usually asked by
someone with an impatient tone, “Have you tried mobile banking?” or “Did you
try placing a hold online?” I
recently called a dance studio because I wanted to give them my money and watch
a performance, and instead of just telling me the date of the show I was met
with a huffy, “It’s on the website.”
I once attempted to join a moms’ group and was told I probably wouldn’t be able
to since it was run primarily through Facebook. A group of moms, who all lived
in the same city and attended the same church, met over Facebook instead of
in-person.
It was
for this reason that I found myself cracking up at some of the not-that-funny
parts of Esther Emery’s book, What Falls from the Sky.
Esther
Emery was doing her best to mend a broken heart and a broken marriage and
decided to try a little experiment, one year without Internet or TV. She found
God during this time… and learned to cook, garden, play guitar, and juggle. She
read book after book. She traveled to Nicaragua and learned more about the
world.
Detoxing
from the Internet completely changed her life and she wrote all about it in her
book.
I so
highly recommend it. I think it’s a really interesting story about her personal
life and her marriage, but it’s also a really beautiful depiction of a very
hurt, introverted person growing and changing into someone who deeply values
human connection over the kind of “connection” found on the Internet.
If
you’ve ever thought about your dependence on (or addiction to) the Internet, and
what life might be like if you gave it up, I very highly recommend this book.
Also,
because so many people in this generation find it very difficult to imagine
functioning normally outside of the Internet, I am happy to help with any
logistics questions you might have. =]
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